HAVING COMPASSION

Recently we have been working through the feelings we go through in the early times of living with an alcohol abuser. We seem to go through definite stages as follows:

DISBELIEF > DENIAL > ANGER > BITTERNESS > RESENTMENT > SADNESS >  COMPASSION > FORGIVENESS > LOVE.

In previous posts we have worked through the feelings from Disbelief to Resentment - have a look back at previous posts if you have just joined this blog.

Now we can look at COMPASSION..  This feeling of compassion for our alcohol abuser can come after  SADNESS passes and we begin to learn one thing:

OUR ALCOHOL ABUSER IS IN THE GRIP OF A POWERFUL DRUG - MIND CONTROLLING, CUNNING, BAFFLING, TAKING OVER THEIR LIFE.

Your drinker now has the biggest fight of their life on their hands - can they overcome the urge to drink?

The World Health Organisation lists Alcoholism as one of the world's major health issues, and it is classified by most in the health area as a disease of the mind.

Realising this - that your partner is suffering from a powerful mental disease or disorder, how can you maintain feelings of ANGER or RESENTMENT against them?

What if they suffered from M.S., or Poliomyelitis, or Cancer - would you be angry with them then?

I'm sure you would not. You would feel COMPASSION, would you not?

So you can learn to feel COMPASSION for your drinker. Remember:

They are not doing it to spite you,

They are not doing it because they do not love you,

They are not doing it because they are a bad person

They are not doing it because they are dumb.....

THEY ARE DRINKING BECAUSE THEY ARE UNABLE TO STOP - 

THEIR MIND IS BEING CONTROLLED  BY

ALCOHOL

SO  THINK  ABOUT  IT -  CAN  YOU  BEGIN  TO  FEEL  SOME  COMPASSION?

WHAT  IF  IT  WAS  YOU???