We have been looking at the series of emotions we seem to go through when we live with an alcohol abuser,
and they are:

DISBELIEF > DENIAL > ANGER > BITTERNESS > RESENTMENT > SADNESS >  COMPASSION > FORGIVENESS > LOVE.

And today we will look at "Coming out of the dark tunnel" - FORGIVENESS

If we have been working through these feelings and now can feel some COMPASSION for the plight of our drinker, soon we can think of FORGIVING THEM for all they have done.

If we realise that their brain is now being controlled by the drug ALCOHOL we can realise too that they have lost control of their life.  ALCOHOL is now running their life.

Perhaps the biggest challenge in life faced by your drinker will be : To STOP DRINKING.  This is very difficult for most drinkers and really, they will mostly need the help of AA to do it.

Maybe now we can start to see the situation differently - they cannot help what they are doing, they being controlled by Alcohol.  Perhaps we can feel PITY for them at this time.

What many of us have learned is to overcome ANGER and RESENTMENT we have to try to:

FORGIVE  THEM

Yes, try to FORGIVE the drinker for drinking, for all the harm they have done, for all the bad things that have happened.

WHY?

Because:  HOLDING ONTO OUR ANGER AND RESENTMENT ONLY HURTS US!

WE are the ones that will suffer if we hold onto grudges, resentment or anger - these negative emotions will do physiological harm to our bodies if we do it long enough.

There is no peace of mind if you hold anger, resentment, a grudge, blame.

TO HAVE ANY SORT OF MEANINGFUL LIFE WE HAVE TO LET GO OF ANGER.

THE ONLY WAY WE CAN COPE IS TO FIND SOME PEACE IN OUR LIVES DESPITE WHAT THE DRINKER IS DOING.

I have shown you one way yo find some peace in your life.

Please think about the HEALING POWER OF FORGIVENESS.....