Very often we are continually embarrassed, angered, ashamed or upset by what our drinker does. How in Hell are we supposed to carry on with all the garbage that takes place?
This is one of the hardest things to live with: putting up with the awful things he or she does - and has absolutely no memory of later - that make us cringe.
It takes time to grasp that it is your drinker's actions - not yours - that are the problem and that are on show. With the right help, we come to learn to disassociate from the behaviour: we don't let it get to us, we try to detach from it.
We also learn to let consequences follow whatever the drinker does, rather that try to cover over or 'patch things up'. The drinker has to learn that there ARE consequences to what they do.
These new behaviours on our behalf don't get learned easily and we need help to learn. My journey into getting help is set out in the 'HELP PAGES' on the right.
I hope the information there will help you.
