Although the abuse of alcohol is becoming recognised as one of Western society's looming problems, the damage caused by an abuser on those close to him/her is still not a large issue in the mind of the public.
This can make us feel ISOLATED - I don't dare tell anyone - no one cares - I'm all alone .....
While the physical violence stemming from alcohol abuse is well reported, what is still ignored is the emotional damage and also physical violence inflicted upon those around the abuser. So the accepted figure of six people affected by any one alcoholic represents harm inflicted upon spouses, children, parents, relatives and friends, even colleagues.
You are NOT ALONE - there are thousands of us around the world affected by someone's excessive drinking.
Not knowing any better, many of those close to an alcoholic unwittingly "enable" the drinking to continue by covering up any damage done, making excuses, paying bills, lying to the boss, concealing the truth. In fact most of the things we do to try to stop someone drinking actually make things worse.
And the drinker will mostly have no earthly idea of the damage being done around him/her and will not even remember the sometimes degrading things that happen while on a binge. So with someone patching things up, and no bad memories, why stop drinking? After all, in the drinker's mind, there is no problem, is there?
If you are suffering because of a loved one's alcohol abuse, the way to find commonsense, low cost and effective help is via your nearest Al-Anon Family Group.
You can make a start to a better life by working slowly through the "HELP PAGES" shown on the right - they cover the way that I found help and the way to a better life.
I hope that you find help in these pages - this blog is for YOU.
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