This blog aims to help you cope with living with an alcohol abuser. I know what you are going through because I have lived through this situation myself. So I have set up the "HELP PAGES" on the right to help you cope with an alcohol affected life. Please start with the first page: "Living with an Alcohol Abuser".

LIVING WITH AN ALCOHOL ABUSER

If you are living with an alcohol abuser, then I know what your are going through - I have been there too.  In these pages I will outline how I got help and learned to cope with my partner's excessive drinking.

So if someone close to you is often drunk, you are probably doing some of these things:

LIVING IN A TENSE AND ANGRY HOUSEHOLD
  • Trying to reason with him/her to find out WHY they are drinking
  • Pleading with or abusing them to stop the drinking
  • Covering up the distressing incidents that happen.
MAYBE EVEN
  • Yelling, swearing, nagging or arguing with the drinker
  • Giving the drinker the cold shoulder - living in a sulky silence
  • Isolating yourself with the shame of it all
AND PROBABLY
  • Getting into arguments to vent your anger
  • Looking for booze, hiding it or pouring it down the sink
  • Lying about your family situation
Does any of this sound familiar?  We have ALL done most of these things in this situation - you are not ALONE!

But guess what?  None of this works!  Although they seem to be a natural thing to do - the actions listed above produce NO  EFFECT  on the drinker - in fact they only make matters WORSE.

But THERE IS HOPE - when you are ready, go to the next page: "A Different Approach".
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