MORE ON RESENTMENT .....

Another thought on RESENTMENT is this ...

IF we have UNREALISTIC  EXPECTATIONS, we are just setting ourselves up for MORE  RESENTMENT ..... when those expectations are not met.

Confused?

Here is an example:

Let's say you expect your partner to stop drinking.

They don't

Then you get resentful AGAIN.

Why? 

It was unrealistic to expect him/her to stop drinking - just because you wanted them to stop.

A drinker cannot stop drinking unless they really make up their OWN MIND to stop.

Having unreal expectations about all sorts of things in life can result in resentment when those expectations are not met.

What to do?

Be REALISTIC IN WHAT YOU EXPECT.  Especially of your alcohol abuser. They have perhaps a long way to go until .... THEY  FIND A REASON TO STOP DRINKING.

THEIR reason - NOT  YOUR REASON.

Maybe you have ACCEPT  that your drinker cannot stop drinking.  ACCEPTANCE  HELPS.

So, watch out for unrealistic expectations!