LOVED ONE DRUNK ? WHAT DO I DO??

It took me quite a while before I accepted that my wife's drinking was out of control.  I tried everything to stop her drinking bouts but nothing worked.

Looking back now, I realise that I persevered too long before reaching out for help.

All that happened was that my wife's drinking got worse and I slowly became a nervous, angry, isolated partner.  I wish I had sought help earlier, I would not have become so screwed up.

When to seek help?

• When you find yourself frustrated, angry or resentful MOST of the time - danger signals for your health.
• When you find yourself isolating from family or friends, or refusing social contacts.
• When you can think of nothing else but his or her drinking.

If any of the above sounds familiar - have a look at the HELP PAGES over on the right hand side, and follow how I found my way back to sanity.

Best wishes for your recovery!

ACCEPTING I HAVE A PROBLEM DRINKER

Facing up to the reality that our loved one has lost control of their drinking and is becoming more and more controlled by the need to drink is one of the hardest things we have to do.

I didn't want to know about it for a while, and blamed the excessive drinking on "depression". I found it very hard to even think that my loved one was in trouble with alcohol.

Until some kind friends told me that she had a drinking problem. Then I had to face it for the first time. Even so it took quite a while before I sought help.

Then I tried everything to stop her drinking: seeking the reason for her drinking, trying to rationalise her reasons, hiding booze, pouring it down the sink, getting angry, feeling sad, lost and totally bewildered.

I had to seek the right help to understand what was going on - my General Practioner or Doctor simply said: "If she cannot stop, get out of the relationship!"

I could not do that, so I sought help elsewhere; to find out how I got help have a look through the Help Pages on the right.

I hope you find some useful information from my blog: its written just for YOU!