ANGER and BITTERNESS

Recently we have been looking at the PROCESS we go through when we struggle to live with an alcohol abuser - and here is the process:

DISBELIEF > DENIAL > ANGER > BITTERNESS > RESENTMENT > SADNESS >  COMPASSION > FORGIVENESS > LOVE.

See the post of 9 /8/2013 that covered this in general.

Now we are going to look at ANGER and BITTERNESS 

This is how we feel when we stop denying we have a problem in our lives - then we get angry.

We may think: WHY ME?-   HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN TO US? -   WHY DON"T THEY JUST STOP DRINKING!! - WHY  DON"T THEY LISTEN TO ME?

It is natural to get ANGRY but it does not do us, NOR THE DRINKER, any good.

We may vent our anger on our helpless drinker - that IS NOT GOOD.....

If we show anger to our drinker, it may just give them a REAL REASON TO KEEP DRINKING!

So no one gets any better.

Could I suggest that you look back at some of my earlier posts on ANGER -

• HANDLING OUR ANGER - 28/7/2013
• AN ANSWER TO OUR ANGER - 18/4/2013

I am sure you will find a lot of suggestions there that will help.

But for right now, try to remember --  DO NOT TAKE YOUR ANGER OUT ON YOUR DRINKER

Try to WORK IT OFF somehow - walk, punch a pillow, jog, jump up and down, do pushups, do something physical to bleed off your anger.

YOU will feel better AND you will NOT MAKE THE DRINKING GET WORSE!