FEEL ASHAMED??

Many of us feel ashamed that we have an out-of-control drinker as a loved one, in our family. We feel that somehow it reflects on us too: a blight on the whole family.

This is quite common and a normal reaction to the horrors that we may be facing within the privacy of our home. Most of us go through this.

We may be desperately trying to hide any evidence of our loved one's alcohol abuse: from neighbors, family or friends. Or our loved one's boss even.

We are usually only partly successful in this.  Sooner or later the drunken behavior has consequences outside of the home. The word gets out.

But it really is NO REFLECTION UPON US.  We are not the drinker. We are not fully responsible for all the drinker does, no matter how we may kid ourselves. The drinker will do what they want whether we try to control the drinking or not.

For a saner way, look through the HELP PAGES over on the right.

And remember: YOU are NOT ALONE in this. WE have been there too.