This happens to most of us: we come home only to find our loved one passed out drunk on the sofa, the floor, the bed or some other place.
We feel as if we have been hit in the stomach - winded, deflated, maybe angry: "He/she has been DRINKING AGAIN!" and maybe : "When in Hell is he/she going to stop??"
In the early days of living with and alcoholic, this is all too common an experience.
So WHAT DO WE DO?
ACCEPT that your loved one has lost control of drinking again.
Try to SETTLE DOWN and become CALM. Maybe though we feel angry, so do something to work off the anger - go for a short walk - go punch a pillow (I mean it - this works off anger) but DO NOT HIT YOUR LOVED ONE.
THINK - he or she has lost control. They are really sick. Being angry will not help you nor them. Try to feel a bit of compassion - as you will learn later, they are suffering from a mental disease called alcoholism.
DO SOMETHING USEFUL for yourself - cook a meal or go out and get one - read the news or watch TV. Try to get your mind off the drinker. Read a book - write a letter- call a friend to chat.
READ the HELP PAGES over on the Right of this page - you will find useful information there.
And remember : YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Thousands of us have been through this AND SURVIVED.
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