WHY DO I NEED HELP?

Sometimes we think: 'Why in Hell do I need help? I am not the one drinking!! Shouldn't my alcohol abuser get help instead of me?'

This is often where we start when we fully realise the extent that our lives are being affected by our loved one's drinking.  It's only natural to think: ' I am not the one with the problem!'

Of course our alcoholic needs help! But, most often they are in denial that they have a problem at all. At early stages they think they don't need help at all.

If both parties go on this way, no improvement happens; in fact things will get worse and worse.

Mostly we find that it is US, the sufferer of someone else's drinking, who has to do something.  We need to make our lives at least bearable, to cope with the continual situations that arise caused by the drinker.

Our lives become so unmanageable that often it is US that starts to look for help.  It may be ages before the alcoholic realises that they are in deep trouble. We can't always wait for them to do something - we have to act to look after ourselves.

It may upset us at first to think that we have to take some action, but you can be assured that thousands of people affected by someone else's drinking found that they had to take the first step.

My journey, which may help you to get a better life, is summarised in the Help Pages to the right. I suggest you start there and see if anything makes sense to you.

And remember: you are not alone nor unique: just another person suffering because someone has lost control of their drinking. There is help available.