GOOD TIMES - IN BETWEEN DRINKS.....

It's hard living with someone who drinks MOST of the time.  We get ANGRY and RESENTFUL.

So what happens when our loved one stops drinking for a while?

We sometimes REACT and GET REVENGE!  We often tell them, now that they are sober and will hear us, how badly they have treated us and all the trouble they have caused and what the neighbours said and all those bills haven't been paid and the list goes on .... WE GET ALL OUR FRUSTRATION OFF OUR CHEST!

And, maybe give the drinker a REASON TO START DRINKING AGAIN !!!

GOT THAT?  By haranguing our sober drinker we may actually make them want to blot the world out by escaping into the comfortable world of being drunk - there's no pain there.

So instead of beating on your temporarily sober drinker - try this:

• PUSH YOUR ANGER AWAY FOR A WHILE - read previous POSTS about ANGER
• BE NICE TO THEM -even if it goes against your grain
• DO THINGS THAT YOU BOTH USED TO ENJOY
• TRY TO MAKE SOBER TIMES GOOD TIMES
  
• TRY TO MAKE SOBER TIMES GOOD TIMES.

GIVE THEM A REASON TO BE SOBER !!!!

Try to do this every time they stop drinking, even if only for a little while.

Remember, very often for your drinker  IT HURTS TO BE SOBER - THE WORLD IS A HURTFUL PLACE - IT'S NICER TO BE DRUNK.

To undo that, you can try the above.

I did and it helped my wife along the road to finding sobriety. Not the main thing, just something positive.

AA helped her make the break.

Al-Anon helped me stay in the marriage with HOPE that one day she would stop drinking.

And one day, she did.  But of course, some people just cannot stop drinking. But that is another story .......