WHAT CAN I DO - I'M FRUSTRATED !!

We often feel frustrated and angry - and it HURTS to see our loved one on the road to destroying themselves.  We feel so HELPLESS.

Maybe everything we have tried to do has failed - the drinking continued or even got sneaky, went underground - but it continued despite our efforts.

That is because alcohol has taken control over the mind of our loved one. The only thing that matters to our drinker is keeping the supply of booze going. They are in a real pickle and probably hate it. As we do. But they are controlled by the alcohol - it is that powerful.

This sounds wrong and weak perhaps, but the only approach FOR US is a PASSIVE one - action does not work against alcohol.

Here's a few things we CAN do:

• ACCEPT that our loved one is in the grip of a mental disease - Alcoholism
• Have some EMPATHY - they are sick in the mind, being controlled by a chemical
• BACK OFF the pressure or the haranguing - it just does not help anyone
• Let the drinker start to SUFFER the CONSEQUENCES of their drinking
• Do NOT ARGUE with the drinker - they may be trying to provoke you - DON'T  ARGUE
• Start to THINK ABOUT YOUR HEALTH and WELL BEING 
• Because you have to look after yourself - you can do nothing for the drinker.
• READ  THE  HELP  PAGES to learn how I got help.

I wish I could tell you how to stop the drinker from drinking - but no-one apart from your drinker can find the answer - only HE or SHE can find a way to stop.  We can do nothing.

Except look after ourselves and have some compassion.