I AM ANGRY - WHAT CAN I DO?

We all get frustrated and angry with our drinker - sometimes it all gets too much. It's not good, but it's what happens to us.

So next time you feel your anger rising when you look at the state your drinker is in, what can you do?

Its no good to vent your anger on him/her - that may even provoke them to start abusing you, or argue with you,  which will cause your anger to rise and something unwise may happen, which you will regret later.

TRY TO WORK THE ANGER OFF IN A POSITIVE WAY.

Some of the ways of working off anger that people have tried are:

• First thing - just get away from the drinker - stop looking at them - go to another room or outside - just get away fro a while.
  
• Some grab a pillow or cushion and pummel hell out of it - punch it, jump on it, throw it at the wall
  
• Yell obscenities - swear your head off, yell abuse at the wall, yell it all out, scream if you want to
  
• Go for a fast walk - I would NOT say drive a car or ride a bike - that is dangerous when you are angry - JUST WALK or RUN
  
• Write it down - let your anger out on paper - this helps too, and you can throw it away later. President Lincoln once did this - he wrote a letter harshly criticising a commander's actions during the civil war - but he never posted that letter. But he had vented his frustration. We can do the same.

So there are a few things to try that WILL  NOT HARM ANYONE ... I hope you can remember to do something in a positive way the next time you feel anger creeping up on you.