When we first get hit with the realisation that our loved one is in the grip of alcohol, its fairly normal to ask oneself : "Why am I in this situation??" "What did I do to deserve this??"
We feel like a victim, isolated, alone with this horrible problem.
Maybe we are trying to hide everything from the family, friends, neighbours, relatives ....
It all makes us feel angry and alone. This often happens to us in the early days.
But feeling like a victim just fuels our anger, and in anger we can hit out at the drinker, and really make things worse.
First thing to realise is: we are NOT ALONE - there are thousands of us people around the world who are affected by someone else's drinking. Just like us.
Second thing is to understand that WE NEED HELP.
We may think: NOT ME! I CAN FIX THIS!
Try it by all means: you will most likely just make things worse. YOU will feel worse.
LOOK FOR HELP. See where I found help in those HELP PAGES over on the right. The help I found kept me going through all the tough years.
I wish for you that you get help too - you are not alone. Read on ....
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