One of the natural things we do, when faced with the shock of our loved one's out-of-control drinking, is to try and control it - to STOP it happening.
We probably take the alcohol and pour it down the sink.
It will be replaced, but hidden. So we go looking for it and when we find it, we pour it down the sink.
It will be replaced and hidden in a very secret place. We may spend hours looking for it, but not find it. And the drinking continues.
We may take credit cards or cash away from the drinker so they CAN'T buy any alcohol.
But the drinking continues - somehow the booze gets bought. And drunk.
All of this will drive us nuts if we continue.
Here we have to learn, as I did, that we are POWERLESS over alcohol. Alcohol affects the drinker's brain so much after a while that getting a drink is the most important thing in the world - to the drinker.
So we have to learn a new way. If we can't control the drinking - WE HAVE TO ACCEPT IT.
This means adopting a DIFFERENT ATTITUDE - to let the drinking continue without us trying to stop it. Sound crazy??? Well, we have learned that WE will go crazy trying to stop the drinking. We CAN'T.
The HELP pages over on the right cover what I learned - the hard way - and how I got help. Please read these.
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