But sometimes, when we live with an active drinker, the festive season turns into an unhappy time, because of what the drinker does: drunk at the wrong time, arguments, turning guests off, and so forth.
Many people living with alcoholics find this and do not look forward to Christmas.
What can we do?
Accept that the drinker will drink and make plans accordingly. Maybe YOU can go out and leave the drinker home: after all, the only thing that interests the drinker is drinking.
Try to enjoy the good things that DO happen, and often pleasant things happen even in the bad times. Try to focus on YOURSELF and do some things that YOU enjoy. Forget about the drinker if you have to - just enjoy yourself.
And don't feel guilty about leaving the drinker to their own devices: you did not force the drinker to drink, that is THEIR choice. You can choose to do something pleasant.
Look for the good things that may happen, no matter how small: they will make you feel better.
Bless you all.
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