OUR ATTITUDE MATTERS

The face we show to our drinker is noticed by them, though it may not seem so at times.

If we are critical, nasty, sarcastic, abusive or downright rude to our drinker, how are they going to feel?

If you were in their place - what would YOU feel like doing?

Have another drink so that I don't feel the anger from you, or to bury the guilt I feel for a while.

This is really a natural response for our drinker - "If I'm being hit on, I will escape by having another drink!"

It needs to change - Why ? To take away another excuse for our drinker to keep drinking.

So what SHOULD our attitude be? 

This helps:  Try to take your focus away from the drinker and onto yourself.  Easy?  Not at all.
BUT - if you can do this - focus on yourself, how you are feeling, what you are doing - then you are not hitting on your drinker.  You stop giving him or her a reason to drink.

You will reduce the tension in your environment and its surprising what a difference it can make to the drinker.

Try it.  See what I mean.  I had to learn to do this too.

To learn more, have a look at the HELP pages over to the right.

You are not alone!