I LOVE HIM/HER - SO WHY DON'T THEY STOP DRINKING??

Ever felt this way? I know I did when my wife continued drinking despite me asking, pleading with her to stop.

Shouldn't they stop drinking because of all the damage they are doing to your relationship?  Surely they must know the hurt they are causing!

Well, NO, THEY DO NOT KNOW the damage they are doing, while they are drinking.

Despite how WE feel, THEIR MIND is being CONTROLLED by alcohol - and alcohol is far, far more powerful than any love our problem drinker may feel for us.

Most likely they DO love us! That's the sad part.

But, their mind is telling them they need a drink, most of the time.

During sober times, and often there are sober times during the drinking. they MAY realise what they are doing is hurting us and their relationship.  This can happen.

And this may make them feel very, very guilty and worthless and bad. They may hate themselves.

And the only way to stop that pain is - to have another drink. Because the drink blots everything else out from their mind and they become at peace. For a while.

So this is about the POWER OF ALCOHOL in controlling your loved one's mind.

It is a battle you cannot win.
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YOU  NEED  TO GET  HELP.

Look over the previous recent posts - I explained where I got help to survive.

Do something for YOU!