SO IF THERE IS ALCOHOL ABUSE, WHAT DO I DO??

What do you do when your loved one has obviously lost control of his/her drinking?

Usually, confronting them with the accusation of drinking too much will be met with full on denial, with perhaps something flung back at you.

What usually happens is a long series of heated arguments about the drinking problem, and all the time the drinking will continue or even get worse.

You can try all the arguments you like to try to "bring your loved one to their senses", but all you will get is arguments back at you.

You can try these arguments if you like, none of them will stop the drinking:

• If you loved me you would stop drinking!
• You are ruining our lives by your drinking!
• I can't talk to you anymore!
• What's happening to us?
• Why do you drink so much?
• I hate it when you drink, please STOP!
• Can't you see what you are doing to US?

None of this will change the drinking.  But there must be SOMETHING I can do?

There is.  BREAK  THE CYCLE  OF  ARGUMENTS

1. REALISE  THAT  YOU  CANNOT  STOP  THE  DRINKING.

2. STOP ARGUING ABOUT IT.

3. START THINKING ABOUT HOW YOU ARE GOING TO COPE WITH THE SITUATION.