DENIAL

One of the hardest things to cope with is when your alcohol affected loved one absolutely DENIES that he or she has a drinking problem.  This is really hard when you are trying to have a normal life, which however is being destroyed by the actions of the drinker.
It seems we have to understand that, in THEIR mind, there IS no problem - they think they are coping and that no-one is being affected. We learn too, that when they do things when they are drunk, later on when sober they will have abosolutely no idea of what they did. This is quite normal in a drinker.
It's not normal for US, but it's normal for a person seriously affected by alcohol.
It's so frustrating for us who have to live with the consequences of someone's uncontrolled drinking.
What to do?
Not much we can do! No amount of argument or quoting of examples will be accepted by the drinker.
We have to understand that one of the hardest things a drinker has to face is that they DO have a drinking problem - this is a big hurdle for them to get over, and it can take many months in AA before they can admit this.
So we have to learn to lead our lives differently, as we cannot change the mind of our drinker.
You can see what I learned in the 'HELP PAGES' over on the right.
I have been away for most of August so apologies to those who are following my blog.
God Bless.